再不做光棍了！手把手终极约会指南

1) Keep It Simple
尽量简单

Don’t try to be funny and forget about impressing her. Women are attracted to men who are confident in their own skin, so bending over backwards in an attempt to “wow” a woman will probably just make her think you are trying too hard. Take a few deep breaths, think to yourself, “No big deal,” confidently walk up to her, and say, “Hi.” For bonus points, find something about her to compliment (maybe she has a neat tattoo, an expressive smile, or a witty t-shirt?).
别光顾着搞笑而忘了给她留下深刻印象。女性会被对自己外表自信的男士吸引，所以拼命去“追求”讨好她，只会让她认为你用力太猛。深呼吸对自己说：“没什么大不了的，”自信地走向她并向她打招呼，找她身上的优点去赞美一下（也许她有整洁的纹身、微笑的表情或是诙谐的T恤）。

2) Does Popping the Question Sound Terrifying?
提出邀约听起来可怕吗？

If you’re worried about appearing nervous, let’s make your approach as quick-and-painless as possible. March up to her and say something like, “Hello! I know this is a bit random, but I just wanted to say you caught my eye. I’m running late for a meeting/work/class/(you get the idea), but I’d love to get your phone number if that’s okay?”
如果你担心自己表现出紧张的状态，尽量给自己找个快速无痛的方法。接近她对她说些类似：“你好！我知道这样有些唐突，但我只想说你吸引了我的眼球。我赶着去开会/工作/上课快迟到了（你懂的），但我想知道你的电话号码，告诉我好吗？”

4. The Big Night
约会之夜

1) Don’t Take a Sporty Woman to the Opera
不要带一个爱运动的女人去看歌剧演出

Did she say yes? Sweet! Let’s get ready for your date. Do some homework before the Big Night arrives. Ask her about things like favorite movies, sports, musical genres, and hobbies. This way, you can disguise your detective work as small-talk and surprise her with a perfect night out that fits her interests.
她同意约会了吗？不错！让我们准备好开始约会吧。在约会之夜到来之前做做功课，问她关于诸如最喜欢的电影、最爱的体育项目、最爱听的音乐流派以及兴趣爱好。你可以用聊天的方式来掩饰你的“侦探”工作，根据她的兴趣爱好趁约会之夜给她一个惊喜。

2) Are You Listening, Ogling, or Waiting for Your Turn to Speak?
你在倾听？抛媚眼？还是在等着轮到你开口说话？

Keep your eyes on her eyes when she speaks, and REALLY listen to her! Listen actively, smiling and nodding in the appropriate places, and be ready with follow-up questions that show her how thoughtful you are. First impressions are huge, so don’t blow it.
她说话时要双目对视。并且要真正倾听她说话！积极倾听说话内容并适当伴有微笑和点头的动作，还要准备随后就谈话内容问问题，这表示你有多体贴她。第一印象很重要，所以你别搞砸了。

5. Post-Date
约会结束后

No Mind Games Allowed
不要玩猜心游戏

There is no “best time” to text or call after a date, so stop over-analyzing it. If she likes you, she will be more than happy to hear from you, no matter when that might be (Note: if the first date was a Grand Slam, you’d be wise to say, “Hi,” the following day and schedule a follow-up date ASAP because momentum is your friend). The only rule? Don’t be clingy. Confidence is hot, so keep calm and cool.
约会后没有所谓的发短信或打电话的“最佳时间”，所以不要在这个问题上过度分析。如果她喜欢你，可能她无论什么时候听到你的声音都很开心（注意：如果第一次约会成功，你要聪明点主动给她发短信或打电话，趁着这个势头第二天或尽快再安排一次约会）。至于唯一的规则呢？就是不要太粘人就可以。对热恋充满信心，所以要保持沉着冷静的态度。