社交课堂：如何跟充满负能量的人打交道

If you don’t like something, change it; if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. – Mary Engelbreit
如果你讨厌什么，就改变它；如果你不能改变，就改变你的态度。——玛丽·恩格尔布赖特

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.
不论外面的天气如何，有些人头上总是阴云密布。他们的负面态度对你自己的情绪也有害处，你也许觉得对此你无能为力。

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.
但事实并非如此。

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.
如果你想有效对付那些负能量的人，成为正能量的拥护者，最好的办法就是采取下面的这些措施。

1. Limit the time you spend with them
限制和他们相处的时间

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.
首先我们要明白这一点。你可能比卡通人物还要积极乐观，但即使这样，你的激情还是有可能被某位朋友的持续负能量所折磨。

In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.
事实上，负能量会损害你的健康，让你容易受到压力过大甚至心脏疾病的侵害，这一点已经被证实了。我们没有理由因为他人的坏情绪而受到伤害。

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.
虽然做到这一点要根据你自身的情况，可能会有点难办。但试着少和负能量的人相处会防止你自己的精神也受到影响。

2. Speak up for yourself
为自己发声

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.
不要只是默默吸收了你不停听到的那些评论，尤其当它们和你有关时。聪明的做法是快速倾听，慢慢说话。但是如果太沉默，给人的印象就是你已经接受了他们所说的话。

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”
不要假装他们的表现没问题

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.
这是一个很容易掉入的陷阱。要向这些人指出他们持续的负能量不是一件好事。我们不想这样做是因为让别人沉浸在他们的痛苦之中要容易得多，我们更愿意置身事外。

But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.
但如果你为了他们好，就不要给他们这个错误的印象，让他们以为自己的负能量是正常的。