总觉得自己不够好？你需要记住的14句话

Need that passing grade? Or perhaps this is something that simply has to be done and cannot be ignored or move forward from. Maybe it is a task that has to be done, but you feel it is demeaning or degrading. That’s ok. Sometimes changing the way you think of a difficult task may be enough. Or use a different technique for getting the work done.
需要升级？或者遇上了必须得完成、无法回避或跳过的事情？或许这个任务必须得完成，但你却觉得不太值得。这没什么。有时只要改变一下你看待困难任务的方式就行了。或者尝试换个方法搞定工作吧。

8. Find A Way To Love Yourself
找到爱自己的方式。

The key to loving yourself is accepting yourself as you are. Of course, this does not mean not attempting to improve yourself. It does mean accepting yourself for who you are, accepting responsibility for the mistake you’ve made, and moving on. It is important not to stop from any one given mistake, but instead to keep going.
爱自己的关键是接受本真的自我。当然，这并不意味着停止不前，而是要你接受自己本来的样子，为所犯的错误承担责任，然后继续前行。千万不要因为某个错误而搁浅，你应该继续前进。

9. Stop Comparing Yourself To Other People
停止拿自己与他人比较。

There can only be one you, warts and all. The truth of the matter is that while we are acutely aware of our mistakes, we rarely see the mistakes of others. We do see their achievements and successes. And unless we live with them, we tend to see others only when they are at their best. No one can be at their best all day, every day. They make mistakes for better or worse, the same as anyone else.
不论优缺点如何，这世上只有一个你。其实，尽管我们很清楚自己的错误，却很少看到别人的——我们只看到他们的成就与成功。而且，除非住在一起，否则我们往往只会看到他们最好的一面。没有人可以一直处于最佳状态。每个人都会时不时地犯些错误。

10. Learn To Appreciate What You Have
学会珍惜已经拥有的。

Certainly you have more than some and less than others. It may help to keep in mind that some people do not have as much as you, even if you only have a little. Get to know someone who has less than you, through volunteering or simply talking with others you may not normally talk too. Practice gratitude by reaching out to the people who have been important in your life.
自然，你所拥有的应该比上不足比下有余。如果你能提醒自己：虽然拥有得很少，但还有人不如自己，或许会乐观很多。通过参加志愿活动，或跟那些平常不太接触的人交谈，去了解不如自己的人吧。学会感恩，多联系那些在你生活中非常重要的人。

11. The Truth Is, Life Really Isn’t Fair
现实是——生活确实不公平。

And such a cruel truth it is. People who don’t deserve a terminal illness get sick and die. Others have trouble follow them around like an unruly puppy. Unfortunately, there isn’t a whole lot you or anyone else can do about this reality. Get to know others and lean on them when possible. Talk with people who share the same burden to learn how to cope and to help you through life’s tasks.
现实就是这么残酷。不该患绝症的人却病逝，还有些人麻烦总是如影随形。不幸的是，你或其他任何人对现实都无能为力。但你可以去了解他人，并在必要时依靠他们。和志同道合的人交流，进而学会如何应付生活中的问题。

12. Some Things Are Not As They Appear
有些事情并非看到的那样。

Due to the fact that we are really voyeur’s in other people’s lives, we have no idea how they have accomplished one thing or another. For example, one person may have the required experience for a job, while another had the right connections. The fact is, we do not know and have no way of knowing how a person is maneuvering through his or her life.
人们都很爱窥探别人的生活，但又压根儿不知道别人是怎样一次又一次取得成功的。举个例子，某人或许具备某份工作所要求的经验，但另一个人却拥有不错的人际关系。事实是，我们不知道、也没有办法知道别人是如何经营各自生活的。

13. Change What You Can And Learn To Accept What Can’t Be Changed
改变自己能够改变的，接受那些不能改变的。

Take control of areas of your life when you can. A good place to start is how you problem-solve or think about a situation. You can control how a problem is approached and how you will deal with the problem. While nothing can change the past, there are steps you can take toward a brighter future. What are the goals you can begin today toward where you want to be?
在力所能及范围内经营好自己的生活。如何解决问题或看待某个情形便是不错的开端。你可以控制问题的出现及其解决办法。虽然无法改变过去，但你可以采取行动创造一个更美好的未来。今天你可以开始怎样的目标，进而实现自己的渴求呢？

14. Don’t Forget To Get Started
不要忘记开始行动。

It is very easy to simply stop forward momentum and dwell on all that has gone wrong. Make the commitment to change, whatever that change may be. Keep a journal as progress is made. In this way, you can physically see the progress being made. It is always a good thing to break the process into smaller steps while advancing toward a specific goal.
人们很容易停止前进，一味陷在已经错发的一切。不论改变是什么，请努力做出改变吧。以日记的形式记录下进步。这样，你能清晰看到取得的进步。在实施具体目标时，最好把整个过程分成几个小阶段，这样比较有益。