关于爱情年轻的我们要知道的9件事

So you’ve met the wrong person, and maybe you kind of even know they’re wrong for you, but you can’t help it — you’re falling in love. That’s ok! It’s good to let yourself feel things for others. If you’re too hesitant to fall in love, then you might never let loose enough to find your special someone. Love is a beautiful feeling, and it’s never wrong to feel it for someone as long as you believe it’s true.
你遇到了一个错的人，也许你甚至知道他/她不适合你，但你就是陷入爱中无法自拔。这也是正常的。让你自己去感知他人是好的，如果你过分犹豫不敢恋爱，你也许永远不会释放自己，找到那个对的人。爱情是一种美好的感觉，只要你相信这是真的，和某人陷入爱中就永远不会错。

6. Live and love in the moment
活在当下，爱在此刻

Never chastise yourself for falling in love. When you feel something in the moment, you need to let yourself feel that emotion completely. Fall in love, daydream about your future, and, as hard as it may be to do, let yourself get hurt. You’ll learn from all of these moments and all of these emotions.
永远不要因为恋爱而惩罚自己。此刻当你有所感觉，你需要让自己完全投入去感受这种情感。陷入爱河，幻想未来，也许还会让自己受伤。你会从所有这些时刻和情感中学会很多。

It seems like you’d look back and kick yourself for having a crush on someone who was so obviously wrong for you, but you’ll see the past through rose-colored glasses and be glad that you experienced as much as you did.
也许当你回头看，会责备自己怎么会爱上一个明显是错的人，但这段过去依然带着浪漫的玫瑰色彩，你会很欣慰自己曾经尽力去体验。

7. You don’t need to have a timeline
你没有必要制定时间表

When you’re young, you get so used to people asking what you’re majoring in or what you want to be when you grow up that you start planning out your whole life. It seems more stable to think “I should be married by the time I’m 25 so I can have kids before I’m 30,” than to fly by the seat of your pants.
年轻的时候，你很习惯别人询问你的专业，或者你长大后想做什么。然后你开始规划你的人生。“我应该25岁时结婚这样我在30岁之前就可以生孩子了”之类的想法似乎比随遇而安更稳定。

But the truth is, those timelines rarely work out. If they do, it might just because you feel pressured to stick to them. What if you’re dating the wrong person when you’re 25, but still feel like you have to get married to meet your goal? Scrap any timeline you have in mind. Life is going to throw you curveballs whether you have plans or not, so see who you meet, who you fall in love with, and go with the flow.
而事实是，这些时间表基本没用。如果有用，也许只是因为你感觉到了压力而刻意遵循。如果你在25岁时爱上了一个错的人，却依然觉得为了实现目标你必须结 婚，会怎样？丢掉你脑中的所有时间表。不论你有没有计划，生活都会照常进行。所以等着瞧，看你会遇见谁，爱上谁，顺其自然。

8. Don’t put others before yourself
不要总优先满足他人的需要

When you’re older and in a committed relationship or marriage, there will be times when you need to put your own wants on the back burner and let your spouse reach some of their personal goals. It’s ok to put others before yourself if you’re being supportive and not letting your own needs and wants fall to the wayside, but it shouldn’t become a habit.
当你成长了、结婚了，有时候你需要把自己的需求放在一边，让你的另一半实现他/她的目标。如果你有足够的支持，也不会让自己的需求丢在一旁，优先考虑他人是可以的，但这不应该成为一种习惯。

If you’re in a relationship where your partner constantly needs to be the center of attention and won’t let you have interests of your own or time to yourself, you need to get out of that. Realize that it’s not only acceptable to put yourself first, but it’s necessary when you’re young and still have so much growing and learning to do.
如果在你的恋爱关系中，你的另一半总是想成为关注的焦点，而不能让你拥有自己的兴趣或者时间，你就应该结束这段关系。要明白，优先为自己考虑不仅可以接受，而且在年轻的时候是必须的，因为你还有很多成长空间，还可以学会很多。

9. Love yourself
爱你自己

You’ll fall in love with good people and you’ll fall in love with bad people, but above all, you need to love yourself. If you love who you are, then you’ll be more open to loving others. Love is always a great thing to share, but loving yourself also means you won’t have to find that love in others. You can love someone without needing something from them to feel validated. Loving yourself is the most powerful love you can experience.
你会爱上好人，也会爱上坏人，但最重要的是你要爱自己。如果你爱自己，你就会更加包容地去爱别人。爱永远是值得分享的好东西，但爱自己也意味着你不需要从别人那里获取爱。你可以爱上某个人而不需要从他/她那里得到什么来确保爱的感受。爱自己是你所能经历的最强大的爱。