10招提升自信：你不知道自己有多棒！

Confidence. It's that intangible thing which makes the difference between feeling scared and feeling powerful. When you feel confident, you are unstoppable and it seems like your path is laid out clearly in front of you. When you lack confidence, however, you can feel afraid, and sometimes all you can see ahead is the possibility of failure.
自信。自信是一种无形的东西，一个人的自信特质能看出一个人与别人大不一样，其差异会达到可怕的程度而且感觉到这个人身上的那种力量感。在你感到自己非常自信的时候，自己有一种无人能够阻挡的感觉，貌似自己走在面前这条畅通无阻的光明大道上。但在你感到自己非常缺乏自信的时候，你自己会感觉好怕，而且自己抬头向前看时，有时候感觉只能看到失败。

At some stage in our lives almost all of us will need to conquer our lack of confidence. (I've certainly been there!) The question is, how do you do it?
在我们生活中的某些阶段几乎每个人都遇到过需要自己克服缺乏自信的这一困难。（我本可以做到！）问题在于你是如何做到的？

Oftentimes coaching and transformation can bring about an increased level of confidence. (One of the many great by-products of the process.) While this does not happen overnight and there is no magic pill, the following are some strategies I have found that work wonders when working with clients.
通常做教练当老师能增加自信。（自信就是在锻炼的过程中得以增强的。）但这不是一夜之间的蜕变，而且没有奇效药片，下列是在与客户合作时发现的一些奇迹性的战略方法。

1.Get out of your comfort zone.
走出你的舒适区。

When you do the things that you think you can't, your comfort zone will continue to expand. Even doing something seemingly small every day will lead you to something bigger. You will grow and will begin to feel unstoppable. Just take that first step.
在你认为自己无法做到这些事情的时候，你的舒适区会继续扩展。即使每天做一些小事情貌似也会逐渐做一些大事情。你会成长并会开始感觉自己势不可挡。关键在于要迈出这第一步。

2.Be yourself -- unapologetically.
做自己—无需有歉意。

Remember, you can't control others or what they think. Wayne Dyer believes that if you ask 30 people their opinions of you, you are likely to find you have 30 different reputations. Strive to observe and witness others' opinions, rather than being attached to them. Find a personal style that feels great to you. Dress well, in the clothing you feel is very you. Live your life the way you feel is right.
记住，你无法控制别人或控制别人的想法。要是你问30人的观点，很可能会有30种不同的看法。努力观察并见证别人的观点，而不是附和别人。发现一个人的性格很好很对你的心情。穿衣要讲究，穿衣讲究你会感觉自己很自信。你会感觉你在过着你想要的生活。

3.Acknowledge your fears.
承认你的恐惧心理。

Fear is normal. The key is to not let it debilitate you. Recognizing your fears will not make them come true. It's best to acknowledge and address the fears rather than not face them. Write out what you are afraid of and what you will do to mitigate those fears.
害怕是正常现象。关键在于不要让恐惧影响到你。要意识到害怕并不解决问题。最好要正视自己的恐惧不要回避恐惧。把你的害怕担心之处写出来，并且把减轻恐惧心理的办法也要写出来。

4.Let go of the idea of perfectionism.
不要追求完美主义。

Striving to be perfect can cause self-doubt (as well as "stuckness"). Give yourself permission to make mistakes. Not allowing yourself to make mistakes will halt your growth. Overthinking can do the same.
极力要求自己做到完美就会怀疑自己（也会给自己设“障碍”）。要允许自己犯错误，不允许自己犯错误就无法成长。过于多虑一样无法成长。

5.Keep reminders of your awesomeness.
提醒自己要敬重自己。

Jack Canfield says, "Self-acknowledgment and appreciation are what give you the insights and awareness to move forward toward higher goals and accomplishments." Make a list of the qualities that are fabulously YOU. Acknowledge your own achievements. Revisit this list when you feel down.
杰克•加菲尔德说，“自我欣赏和自我认知是推动你向前走向更高目标和取得更大成就所具备的洞察力和意识力。”列出一个让你自己都难以置信自身所具备的的性格特质清单。承认自己所取得的成就。在你感到失望的时候再重新审视这个列表。