自我意识 是提高领导情商的关键

“If your emotional abilities aren't in hand, if you don't have self-awareness, if you are not able tmanage your distressing emotions, if you can't have empathy and have effective relationships, then nmatter how smart you are, you are not going tget very far.
“如果你没有足够的情商，没有自我意识，不能克服负面情绪，没有同理心也没有良好的人际关系，那么，无论你的智商多高，你都不会取得多么大的成就。”

“IQ is a major factor in deciding which profession you can get into. But once you are in that field, emotional intelligence emerges as a much stronger predictor of whwill be most successful, because it is how we handle ourselves in our relationships that determines how well we donce we are in a given job.”
“决定你能否从事某一行业的主要因素是智商。但是，在你入行之后，决定你能否成功的更重要因素是情商。这是因为，你的工作表现取决于你如何处理工作关系，而如何处理工作关系取决于情商。”

A recent survey of 75 members of the Stanford Graduate School of Business Advisory Council rated self-awareness as the most important capability for leaders tdevelop. Executives need tknow where their natural inclinations lie in order tboost them or compensate for them. Self-awareness is about identifying their own personal idiosyncrasies — the characteristics that executives take tbe the norm-- but actually represent the exception.
根据最近一项对斯坦福商学院顾问委员会（Stanford Graduate School of Business Advisory Council）成员的调查，75人均将自我意识列为成功领导者最为重要的一项能力。作为领导者，需要了解自己的脾性，扬长避短。自我意识关系到分辨自身特有的习性，而领导者往往将这种特性视为理所当然，可实际上只是特例。

Self-awareness is indeed very important for leaders, and is one of the five dimensions of “Emotional Intelligence” identified by Dr. Daniel Goleman, a leading expert on the subject of “EQ.” In the old days, perhaps a person in a position of responsibility could survive solely on the basis of their “IQ” and professional expertise. But in the complex world we now live in, where people have increasingly higher standards for those they follow, leaders are expected tcontinuously develop their EQ if they are tearn the respect of others.
自我意识对于领导者尤为关键，也是情商权威专家丹尼尔o戈尔曼博士认定的情商的五大维度之一。在过去，一位领导者可能仅凭智商和专业技能就可以应付管理。而在当今日趋复杂的世界，人们对领导者的标准也水涨船高；如果想要赢得别人的尊重，领导者就需要不断提高自己的情商。

Never heard of “Emotional Intelligence or “EQ?” Then I suggest that this article is going tbe important for you!
如果你以前对所谓的“情商”不甚了解，那么我强烈建议你阅读本文，因为这对你将非常重要！

Goleman’s 5 Dimensions of Emotional Intelligence include:
戈尔曼认定的情商的五个维度为：

1. Self-awareness: literally ‘knowing yourself’
1. 自我意识：也就是对自身的了解

2. Self-regulation: managing yourself and your moods
2. 自我调节：控制自己的行为和情绪

3. Motivation: knowing what motivates you and what does not
3. 自我激励：知晓什么能够和不能激励自己

4. Empathy: the ability texperience others as legitimate and valuable and identify with their struggles
4. 同理心：能对别人的心态感同身受并认同别人的努力

5. Social skills: the ability tbuild rapport with others, whenever needed
5. 社交能力：能在任何情况下与他人达成默契

We claim that Self Awareness is the ‘master key’ tEmotional Intelligence and that the other four of Goleman’s EQ elements all ultimately link back tSelf-Awareness.
我们认为，在科尔曼认定的五大维度中，自我意识是万能之钥，另外四种最终均取决于自我意识。

Sin this article we are going ttalk about three things regarding Self-Awareness:
因此，我们在本文中要探讨关于自我意识的以下三个问题：

What is it really?
自我意识到底是什么？

How can you develop it?
如何提高自我意识？

Why it is the absolutely essential “Master Key” for aspiring leaders
为什么说自我意识是领导者成功必需的“万能之钥”？

1. Self-Awareness: what is it really?
1. 自我意识到底是什么？

According tMind Tools (http://www.mindtools.com/) “If you're self-aware, you always know how you feel, and you know how your emotions and your actions can affect the people around you. Being self-aware when you're in a leadership position alsmeans having a clear picture of your strengths and weaknesses, and it means behaving with humility.”
根据个人能力提升网站Mind Tools（http://www.mindtools.com/）的定义，自我意识是“总是知道自己的感受，懂得自己的情绪和行为对他人会造成何种影响；作为领导者，具有自我意识还意味着清楚自己的长处和不足，待人处事时保持谦虚”。

That’s a good start but treally understand Self Awareness, you must gdeeper than this. In our definition, Self-Awareness and “Other Awareness” are simply twsides of the same coin. The tware natural parts of the same process, just as Yin is part of Yang. “Swhat?” you ask! Well, think about this:
能做到这些，的确是一个不错的开端。但想要真正理解自我意识，就必须更加深入地了解它。在我们的定义中，自我意识和“他人意识”只是一体两面。如同阴阳相生，它们是同一过程中两个天然的组成部分。你一定会问：“那又如何？”呶，不妨思考一下以下问题：

If there were n‘others’ it wouldn’t make any sense ttalk about a ‘self’ at all…would it? As humans, we naturally experience our ‘self’ in relationship tothers, whether they be colleagues, family members, or utter strangers.
如果没有“他人”，再说“自我”还有什么意义，不是吗？我们每个人不都是从与他人的交往中，无论是同事、家人或陌生人，自然而然地形成“自我”体验的吗？

Those ‘others’ alsexperience their ‘self” only in relation t‘others.’
这些“他人”也通过与“他人”的交往形成“自我”体验。

Therefore, Self Awareness and Other Awareness should not be separated: when we talk about one, we must talk about the other.
因此自我意识和他人意识不能分开而论：提及其一，则必须提及其二。

For you emerging leaders: there is nothing more important than understanding your self, in order that you can understand others.
要成为领导者，首要的问题就是认识自己，然后才能理解他人。

The good news in all this?As you deepen your insights intyourself, others stop seeming smysterious and hard tunderstand. You will gain insight, empathy and confidence simply by working on your own Self-Awareness. What a deal! ? And, since humans are at root, self-centered, most people are more than willing tlooking in the mirror once in a while, right? But that kind of self-admiration and narcissism are NOT what we are writing about here. We are talking about you, willing tsee the WHOLE picture of yourself, embrace it as it is, and start working with it. Ok, if you are ready, we can now answer the question “What is self awareness really?”
了解这些就够了吗？如果你对自己的认识更加深入，别人在你眼中也不再那么神秘难测了。通过提高自我意识，你提高了认识能力、具备同理心，也赢得了信任。何乐而不为！?而且，人的天性就是以自我为中心，大多数人更愿意时不时看看镜子中的自己，不是吗？但是这种自我欣赏或者说孤芳自赏的心态不是本文讨论的范围。本文要谈的问题是你，一个愿意并开始全面认识自我、认同自我的你。现在，如果你已经做好准备，我们就可以回答“什么是自我意识”的问题了。

Self-Awareness includes:
自我意识包括：

Knowing what you like, dislike and why: what motivates you and what demotivates you, being aware of your own values
知道自己喜欢什么，不喜欢什么，以及当中的原因：什么可以激励你，什么让你沮丧，认识自己的价值观

Being crystal clear about your talents and strengths AND your weaknesses
对自己的才能、优点和缺点了然于心

Being conscious of the content of your own mind (not as common as you might think!)…the ability tobserve your own thoughts
明白自己在想什么（并非你可能以为的那种“明白”！）……观察自己思想的能力

Knowing your own beliefs and knowing which ones empower you and which ones should be discarded…including beliefs about yourself AND others
明白自己的信念，同时明白哪些可以带来力量，哪些应该抛弃……同时包括对自己和对他人的信念