自我意识 是提高领导情商的关键

Knowing your direction in life: where you are headed and why
明白自己的人生方向：你的目标是什么以及原因何在

Knowing and appreciating your own unique value as a human being
认识并欣赏自己作为人类的独特价值

Just looking at this list it should be easy tsee that there is a great deal about which tbe self-aware. And it follows that if these elements are on your list…they are alson everyone else’s list, right? And sthese awarenesses are key tunderstanding yourself as well as others.
了解此清单，可以很容易看出有很多东西需要自我意识。由此可知，如果这些要素在你的清单上……它们同样也在其他每个人的清单上，不是吗？所以，这些认知对于了解自己和他人都是非常关键的。

OK, we’ve answered the question “what is self-awareness really?” Let’s move tthe second question.
我们已经回答了“什么是自我意识”这个问题。现在让我们进入第二个问题。

2. How Can You Develop Self-Awareness?
如何发展自我意识？

The answer is both easy and difficult. The easy part of the answer is “get busy and start filling in the blanks, for yourself, regarding each of the above six elements of Self-Awareness.” The difficult part is that we humans are never ‘fixed and frozen’ or locked inta static way of being. We are a process, ever flowing, ever changing, evolving, alwaysemerging. As such, developing your self-awareness is a life long adventure, a journey, not a project for Thursday afternoon.
答案既简单又复杂。简单的部分是：“针对上述自我意识的六大要素，让自己逐一对照填补空白。”困难的部分则是，我们人类永远都不是“固定和僵化”的，或在一个静态的存在方式中不变。我们处在一个过程当中，它不停地流动、不停地变化、演变，不断涌现。因此，发展自我意识是一次漫长的人生冒险、一趟长长的旅程，而不是周四下午的一个短暂项目。

However there are some excellent tools tget you started on your journey:
不过这里有一些容易让你开启思索旅程的不错工具：

Take the Meyers-Briggs Type Indicator assessment, a valuable psycho-metric tool for self-understanding: http://tiny.cc/e0rmmx
进行MBTI心理类型测试，这是一种很有价值的自我认识心理测试工具：http://tiny.cc/e0rmmx

Take the DISC personality assessment tunderstand what motivates you:http://tiny.cc/rdrmmx
进行DISC性格测试，了解自己的动力是什么：http://tiny.cc/rdrmmx

study the Enneagram tlearn your deeper motivations and pitfalls: http://tiny.cc/e8rmmx
研究九型人格，更深入了解自己的动机和误区：http://tiny.cc/e8rmmx

Da Values Elicitation Exercise tunderstand you are really care about… and what you don’t. Email me and I can send you one (only have English at this time)
进行一次价值启发测试，了解自己真正关心什么……不关心什么。想要获得测试题，请通过电子邮件与我联系（目前只有英文版）

Start a Daily Journal tcapture what you learn from the above, writing down your thoughts, ideas and insights. Review it each week and each month. Keep doing this until the sun starts rising in the West.
开始每天写日记，记录从上面所学到的知识，记下自己的思想、想法和观点。每周和每月翻看日记。坚持下去，直到太阳从西边出来。

Take my “Belief Change Adventure” workshop: a great way tdiscover your beliefs and actually change the ones that nlonger serve you.
参加我的“信念改变冒险”讲习班：发现自己信念，并真正改变不适合自己信念的好方法。

A WORD OF CAUTION!Slow down, take a deep breath, relax. Great! Many people (because of faulty beliefs) assume that diving intSelf-Awareness means they will find out a lot of bad, nasty or unhappy things about themselves. If that sounds like you, please discard this idea right now. Self-Awareness is about finding out whyou really are and becoming more of whyou really are. It is NOT a Witch Hunt! I promise you, as a long time resident of The Human Dimension, most of what you will discover is going tbe treasure. Ok, you might find some junk…sjust discard it! But never used these tools as a way tput yourself down.
提醒！放慢速度，深呼吸，放松。非常好！很多人（由于错误的信念）认为进入自我意识，意味着将会发现自己很多糟糕、难以启齿或不愉快的事。如果这就是你，请马上抛弃这种想法。自我意识是为了发现自己真正是谁，并且成为一个真正的你。它不是巫术迫害！我向你保证，作为长久以来研究人类思维的研究者，你会发现多数东西都将是值得珍惜的。没错，你可能会发现一些垃圾……那就抛弃它！但千万不要用这些工具来贬低自己。

Finally:NEVER use these tools t‘compare’ yourself with others because that is self-defeating and pointless. You are you, scompare yourself with you. Self-Awareness is not a contest and there is n“one perfect way’ of being. Remember the saying in Chinese “when you compare yourself with others it just makes you angry!”
最后：绝对不要利用这些工具将自己和他人进行“比较”，这是自我挫败和毫无意义的。你就是你，所以只要和自己进行比较。自我意识不是竞赛，也没有存在的“完美方式”。记住中国有句谚语“人比人，气死人！”。

3. Why is Self-Awareness the “Master Key” for Leaders?
3. 为何自我意识是领导者的“万能之钥”

We said from the beginning that Self-Awareness is the most essential quality for effective leadership. This is simply because leaders lead…people! And tlead others, one must begin by leading oneself, on a journey of self-discovery and self-understanding. If you are willing ttake this journey and make it a life-long practice, here is what will happen:
我们在本文开篇就说过，自我意识是有效领导的最重要品质。很简单，这是因为领导者带领的是人！要领导他人，必须先从领导自己开始，这是一条自我发现和自我理解的旅程。如果你愿意进入这一旅程，并且愿意终身践行，将会发生什么：

You will develop deep empathy and compassion for other human beings, including total strangers.
你将对他人，包括陌生人，抱有很深的同理心和同情心。

You will empower yourself, discarding old ideas and beliefs that nlonger serve you and it will be easy for you thelp others dthe same.
你将能让自己摒弃陈旧的观念和信仰，而且很容易帮助他人这样做。

You will liberate your own potential, your deep passion, your inspiration and joy and you will become a magnetic leader that people will naturally want tfollow.
你将释放自己的潜力，你的满腔热忱、灵感与欢乐，会让你成为一名散发着魅力的领导者，人们自然而然会追随你。

You will stop looking at people as ‘objects’ or ‘things’ tuse and start seeing them as spiritual beings, just like yourself, with all the usual strengths and weaknesses, on a life-long journey of learning.
在终身学习的旅途上，你不会再将他人视为“物体”或“工具”来对待，而会逐渐意识到他们和你一样，都是有灵魂的人，也有着常人所有的优点和不足。

You will discover that others, with their strengths and weaknesses act as mirrors for ourselves: when you are attracted ta trait you see in others it means you have that in yourself; when you find yourself focused on some other person’s faults…it means you have that in yourself.
你会发现，他人的优点和不足将会成为自身的一面镜子：当你被他人的某个优点吸引时，这说明你自身也具有同样的优点；当你只注意到他人身上的不足时，也意味着你有同样的缺点。

You will start experiencing others differently, focusing on their good points instead of their mistakes.
你将开始以全新的方式与他人相处，更多地看到他人的优点而非缺点。

Over time, you will develop true wisdom and insight and enjoy sharing it, not keeping it locked inside you.
随着时间的推移，你将开发出真正的智慧和洞察力，懂得与人分享，而不是封闭自己。

You will attract other self-aware people and find yourself on an upward spiral as a leader for others.
你会吸引其他具有自我意识的人，还会发现自己的领导能力将进入螺旋式的上升周期。

Now, looking at the above list…how many great leaders dyou know that lack this way of experiencing themselves and other people? I don’t mean ‘dominators’ that just use power tget their way. Those are not true leaders at all. I’m talking about people whare influential, trusted and appreciated by those that follow them.
现在，看看上面的清单……有多少伟大的领导者缺少这样认识自我、感受他人的经历呢？我所指的不是那些用权力得到一切的“统治者”。这些不是真正的领导者。我所说的是那些具有影响力，深受追随者信赖和欣赏的领导者。

I promise you that if you start on the path of Self-Awareness your life is going tchange in many positive ways. A self-aware leader is the only one whcan truly lead. And now I want tleave you with a few quotes tstimulate your thinking:
我能承诺的是，如果你走上自我意识之路，你的人生将会发生很多积极的变化。一个有自我意识的领导者才能真正领导他人。现在我要用几句名言激发你的思考：

“We are not human beings trying tbecome spiritual. We are spiritual beings, learning how tbe human.” Teilhard de Chardin
“我们并非试图拥有灵魂的人类。相反，我们是具有灵性而试图成长为人的存在。”——德日进神父

“Know yourself and know others and in one hundred battles you will be victorious one hundred times.” Sun Dz
“知己知彼，百战不殆”——孙子

“The best time tplant a tree is 20 years ago. The second-best time tplant a tree is right now.” Confucius
“种一棵树最好的时间是20年前，再就是当下”——古谚语