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这些方法有助于缓解孩子的上学焦虑
FIND THE CAUSE
找出原因
Anxiety about going back to school is often caused by additive stress - when worries build up over time. These concerns can be caused by relationships with other pupils, reading out loud or ?being asked questions in class. Difficulties with a teacher or an aspect of your child's school work could also be a factor, as could travelling on a school bus or worries about doing PE.
返校焦虑通常是由于额外的压力造成的--当忧虑随着时间的推移渐渐累积时。这些担忧可能是由与其他小朋友的关系、大声读书或在课堂上被提问所致。很难与老师相处或作业繁重也可能是因素之一,同理,坐校车上学或担心体育课表现也都是影响因素。
Starting secondary school is a trigger. You have lots of different teachers, different expectations and you find yourself with a whole new group of children. You have to get used to a bigger environment and some don't find it easy to adapt to that change.
刚开始上初中也是触发因素。任课老师很多,他们对你的期望也有所不同,你会发现身边都是新的小伙伴。你必须习惯一个更大的环境,而有些学生觉得很难适应这一变化。
BE CALM BUT FIRM
冷静的同时请坚定
You have to be encouraging but firm with your child. If anxiety means they do not go to school at all, then all sorts of problems can build up quickly. They do not get into the routine, fall behind with work and worry about what teachers and other pupils will say.
你需要鼓励孩子,但也得坚定自己的立场。如果焦虑意味着他们不用去上学,那各种各样的问题就会接踵而至。他们会不按时间表作息、不好好做作业、担心老师和其它学生的说法。
REASSURE THEM
让他们安心
Reassure your child using positive, optimistic phrases. Promote the positives of a new school year - it will be exciting to start a new school or class, have a new teacher and make new friends. You can also help them realise it is not unusual to worry. Use examples from your own life experience to explain that many fears are greater than they seem and will be dealt with faster by facing them.
用积极乐观的话语打消孩子的顾虑。聊聊新学年的积极面--你要去新学校或新班级啦、会遇到新的老师、结交新朋友,多么令人激动啊。你还可以帮助他们意识到,这种开学焦虑是很常见的。以自己的生活经验为例,告诉他们--很多时候,自己所担心的事情其实并没有想象中的那么糟糕,直接面对反而能快速消除这些忧虑。
STICK TO A ROUTINE
坚持常规
It is important to get your child into the school routine as quickly as possible. Try to stick to the normal routine at your school - taking your child to school every day instead of sending them on the bus, for example, can create a dependency difficult to break.
尽快让孩子适应学校的常规时间表非常重要。试着坚持学校的常规流程--每天送孩子去上学而非让他们坐校车,这样他/她会对你超级依赖。
GET EXTRA HELP
寻求额外帮助
If the problem cannot be resolved with support from the school, request urgent help from an educational psychologist via the school or your local authority. If it remains unresolved, speak to your GP and request help for child and adolescent mental health service.
如果校方无法给予支持,您可以通过校方或地方当局向教育心理学家寻求帮助。如果还是未能解决孩子的焦虑心理,则与全科医生联系,向他/她寻求帮助,获得青少年心理健康服务。