高中英语人教版高三2 01

[05:42.20]2 Does the writer give advice or information or both?
[05:50.07]THE ART OF BEING A GOOD LISTENER
[05:54.01]There are two meanings of the phrase"listening skills".
[05:59.58]One refers to the type of listening pracice which we do when learning a foreign language.
[06:05.22]The more we practise,
[06:08.38]the better we get at listening to speech in a foreign language.
[06:13.42]The other meaning is about the art of being a good listener to other people.
[06:19.79]In this,the key to good listening is in the Chinese character thing.
[06:26.46]It tells us a lot about how we should listen to each other.
[06:31.31]These are the parts of the character:"ear","you","eyes",
[06:38.86]"undivided attention"and"heart"
[06:43.91]Being a good listener means much more than just"listening with ears".
[06:49.76]"Eyes"mean that I should look at you while you are speaking as a sign of respect.
[06:56.71]In other words I should not watch TV,
[07:01.46]or look over your shoulder at other people while we are talking together.
[07:07.02]"Undivided attention"is another sign of respect.
[07:11.99]Yor may have noticed that very few people listen with complete attention.
[07:18.15]Most people half-listen,
[07:21.68]and if you ask them to repeat what you have just said,they can-not.
[07:27.35]They may appear to be listening,
[07:31.00]but in fact lots of thigs are running around inside their heads:
[07:36.05]shopping lists,things to do,worries,problems and so on.
[07:42.81]What about"heart"?"Heart"is what makes you love other people.
[07:48.58]You can love your friend,
[07:51.75]even though you don't agree with everything she or he says.
[07:56.50]So when you listen to someone,you should listen with complete attention,
[08:02.98]and with complete respect for the other person.
[08:07.24]Here are some more tips on becoming a good listener.First,take turns to listen.
[08:14.97]Don't all try to speak at the same time when you are in a group.
[08:19.93]Listen without interrupting,and stop others from interrupting.
[08:26.38]Then it will be someone else's turn.
[08:30.17]That way everyone gets the chance to speak an dto be listened to with respect.
[08:36.70]Second,if your friends have problems,do not give advice.
[08:43.23]Ask questions instead,such as
[08:47.39]"What do you want?How do you feel about it?What are you afraid might happen?"
[08:54.47]They will be able to find answers to any problems themselves,with your support.
[09:00.63]They just need encouragement and complete trust that they are doing their best.
[09:07.19]Third,listen and be quiet while others are talking!
[09:12.93]Don't interrupt,saying,"Oh yes,that reminds me of...."
[09:17.98]and start to tell your story.
[09:21.53]If someone has a serious problem,or illness or sadness,
[09:27.59]this is not the time to talk about a similar event in your life
[09:32.73]that happened years ago.Most of us are able to solve most of our problems.
[09:40.21]Often,all we need is a good friend who will listen to us
[09:45.35]while we"talk things through".
[09:49.11]If friends can take turns to listen to each other well,life will be better!