新视野大学英语读写教程听力 第一册 unit4c_new

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[00:-1.00]A smile is a strong sign of a friendly and open attitude
[00:-2.00]and a willingness to communicate.
[00:-3.00]It is a positive, silent sign sent with the hope
[00:-4.00]the other person will smile back.
[00:-5.00]When you smile,
[00:-6.00]you show you have noticed the person in a positive way.
[00:-7.00]The other person considers it a compliment (敬意)
[00:-8.00]and will usually feel good.
[00:-9.00]The result? That person will usually smile back.
[00:10.00]Smiling does not mean you have to put on a false face
[00:11.00]or pretend you are happy all of the time.
[00:12.00]When you see someone you know, or would like to make contact with, smile.
[00:13.00]You are showing an open attitude to conversation.
[00:14.00]You might not realize a closed position is the cause
[00:15.00]of many conversational problems.
[00:16.00]A common closed position is sitting with your arms and legs crossed
[00:17.00]and your hand covering your mouth or chin
[00:18.00]This is often called the "thinking pose"
[00:19.00]Ask yourself this question:
[00:20.00]Are you going to interrupt someone who appears to be deep in thought?
[00:21.00]This position gives off "stay away" signs
[00:22.00]and prevents your main "sign sender" (your mouth)
[00:23.00]from being seen by others looking for inviting conversational signs.
[00:24.00]Without these inviting signs,
[00:25.00]others will most likely stay away from you
[00:26.00]and look for someone who appears to be ready for contact.
[00:27.00]To improve this habitual way of standing or sitting,
[00:28.00]start by keeping your hands away from your mouth,
[00:29.00]and keep your arms uncrossed.
[00:30.00]Crossed arms may show a rigid state of mind,
[00:31.00]not especially inviting to outside contact.
[00:32.00]They can also show a lack of patience,
[00:33.00]displeasure, or judgment
[00:34.00]any of which would prevent people from opening up.
[00:35.00]The open body position is most effective
[00:36.00]when you place yourself within communicating distance of the other person
[00:37.00]that is, within about five feet.
[00:38.00]Take care, however, not to enter someone's "personal space"
[00:39.00]by getting too close, too soon.
[00:40.00]Leaning forward a little while a person is talking
[00:41.00]shows your interest
[00:42.00]and shows you are listening to what the person is saying.
[00:43.00]By doing this, you are saying:
[00:44.00]I hear what you're saying, and I'm interested
[00:45.00]keep talking!
[00:46.00]This is usually a compliment that will encourage him to continue talking.
[00:47.00]Often people will lean back with their hands over their mouth, chin
[00:48.00]or behind their head in the "thinking" pose.
[00:49.00]This position gives off signs of judgment, doubt,
[00:50.00]and lack of interest from the listener.
[00:51.00]Since most people do not feel comfortable
[00:52.00]when they think they are being judged,
[00:53.00]this leaning-back position serves to prevent the speaker from continuing
[00:54.00]It's far better to lean forward a little in a relaxed and natural way.
[00:55.00]In many cultures the most common form of first contact
[00:56.00]between two people is a handshake.
[00:57.00]This is true when meeting members of the same or opposite sex
[00:58.00]and not just in work, but in social situations, too.
[00:59.00]in nearly every situation, a warm and firm handshake
[-1:00.00]is a safe and positive way of showing an open
[-1:-1.00]and friendly attitude toward the people you meet.
[-1:-2.00]Be the first to extend your hand in greeting.
[-1:-3.00]Couple this with a friendly 'Hello',
[-1:-4.00]a nice smile, and your name and you have made the first step
[-1:-5.00]to open the lines of communication between you and another person.
[-1:-6.00]The strongest gestures are sent through the eyes.
[-1:-7.00]Direct eye contact shows you are listening to the other person,
[-1:-8.00]and that you want to know about her.
[-1:-9.00]Eye contact should be natural, not forced or overdone
[-1:10.00]Have short periods of eye contact