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Life Can Seem Unfair Until We Change Our Perspective! See How!

2008-03-25来源:

Empty, Hollow, Nothing?.those words shout the sound of disappointment and disillusionment of life for many people; the experience of many people as they grab for possessions, power, knowledge, and the sweet things of life. But, what do they find? Yeah, you guessed it, emptiness, disappointment, and the awareness that life sucks and then you die.

Well, As Luck Would Have It!

Have you ever heard the saying, "it's all in your perspective"? Perspective! Interesting word. It means relative importance of an object in the distance. Isn't that the way it is with everything we pursue? How bad do we want it? How important is it?

Depending on the importance of your goals, you might not want to leave them to luck. Believing "only" in the luck syndrome, is a quick way to develop that "life sucks and then you die" perspective. Find someone with a "life sucks" perspective and you will find someone who thinks that if they didn't have bad luck they would have no luck at all.

A Thimble Full Of Something!

Now, I know some things just fall in our laps! But, not always the powerful, dramatic ones, and if you do get one of those huge blessings in one fell swoop, don't forget to be thankful. Or, it might not happen anymore.

In fact, your perspective towards the small and insignificant accomplishments in your life could help to supercharge your ability to attain more of the bigger ones. And, isn't that where the rub is? Isn't that what we are really yearning for? Isn't that what causes our emotions to be up and down like a toilet seat at a mixed party?

We strive, we push, we burn the midnight oil, and we put all our emotions behind the big issues and let the small ones fall by the wayside. And, then it seems life comes on the scene and reminds us of some small gesture, maybe a free lunch someone treated us to, or, someone backed his car up and let you have the parking space at Wal-Mart.

Every Cloud Has A Silver Lining!

We take those little freebies like that and go on to never give them another thought. You see, life has a tendency to want us to be grateful for everything, good and bad that happens, not just the dramatic ones. And, life loves to remind us of the little ones. On the other side, I'm not saying you should be thankful "for" bad things that happen, but to be thankful "in" bad things that happen.

For example: You just got passed up for a promotion or raise; you mean I should be thankful for that? Not thankful for it happening, but be thankful in the predicament. You can't change it, you can't wish it was different, you've got the short end of the stick and that is that! It's a fact. So, here's a tip.

Lower your perspective to every goal, desire, or major ambition you seek, and this is important, "do it at the very beginning." Hear me now! This is not saying to be lazy in pursuing it like you do the ones you think of as coming from luck. When you are formulating this goal, promotion, raise, whatever, ask yourself, at the very beginning, how would I feel if I end up a few fries short of a happy meal in this deal?

Then check up on the inside of yourself. Do you feel that scratchy feeling down in your belly? Did you have that "life sucks and then I'll die" if I don't get this feeling? Uh oh!! It's too important. The goal is not what is too important! It's the perspective you have placed on it in your mind.

How Now Brown Cow!

Ask yourself this question: If I don't "get this", what are my options? If you don't like the alternative options, then lower your perspective on your primary option. I know this sounds like a paradox, but it's true; if you are not obsessed with having your primary option, then you will find the "primary" option easier to obtain.

Anything in your life that has the power to make you think life sucks and then we die is your master and you are its slave. It has got you by the ear and telling you; "that's ok sweetheart, you're just down on your luck and nobody appreciates you". Here's what