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Cant Take a Compliment?
2008-03-25来源:
"Putting ourselves down,
is an insult to our worth."
--Helen KsypkaHave you ever noticed how women dodge compliments as if they're bullets?You look terrific.
Oh, please; I'm a mess.That's a beautiful blouse.
This old thing?You did a super job.
Not really.What a great dinner.
It was nothing.It was nothing. That one really gets me. Why do you think we women are taken for granted and treated as if we can and should do it all? When we prepare a meal, a party, or holiday, believe me it's a big, fat something. If someone compliments us, we need to acknowledge that we knocked ourselves out, and say: thanks for noticing.If you think I'm blowing this out of proportion, let me tell you how resisting compliments hurt one woman's Business.I spotted a top-notch brochure and knew I'd found the graphic artist I was looking for. When I contacted her and raved about the superb layout, color choices and her eye for detail, she not only found fault with every compliment, she cited additional flaws, hellbent on convincing me that the whole brochure could have been better.Guess what? I ran for the hills. If she didn't think she was so hot, why the heck would I hire her? And you know something? When I studied her work, again, I started to believe that maybe she wasn't so talented after all. (But on the other hand, if she had just kept her mouth shut and accepted my compliments, I would have scrutinized no further, happy to be a new client.)Perhaps recipients of compliments think that by undermining praise, it makes them appear humble. It doesn't. Instead it sends a message that screams:
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