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　　4. For couples with children, embrace the daunting roles of parenthood and absorb the impact of a baby's entrance into the marriage. Learn to continue the work of protecting the privacy of you and your spouse as a couple。

　　对于有孩子的夫妻，坦然地接受父母这样的严峻角色，消化掉因宝宝的出现而对婚姻生活造成的影响。夫妻双方还要学会继续保护自己和配偶的隐私

　　5. Confront and master the inevitable crises of life。

　　共同面对和掌控生活中不可避免的危机。

　　6. Maintain the strength of the marital bond in the face of adversity. The marriage should be a safe haven in which partners are able to express their differences, anger and conflict。

　　在面对逆境时保持婚姻关系的稳定。婚姻应当是一个安全的港湾，在这里夫妻之间可以表达他们的不同观点、忿怒和冲突。

　　7. Use humor and laughter to keep things in perspective and to avoid boredom and isolation。

　　通过幽默和笑声来对待事情，避免厌倦和孤立。

　　8. Nurture and comfort each other, satisfying each partneris needs for dependency and offering continuing encouragement and support。

　　扶持和安慰彼此，满足彼此依恋的需求，并提供持续性的鼓励和支持。

　　9. Keep alive the early romantic, idealized images of falling in love, while facing the sober realities of the changes wrought by time。

　　随着时间的流逝，即使面对理性的现实，也要保持年轻时候一颗浪漫的心和坠入爱河时美好的憧憬。