他们不可怕：8种方法打败生活中的敌人！

Sometimes ill-wishers are your close people and you can’t ignore them. If so, it is better to enlist the help of these people, rather than fight them. Try to do it as soon as possible. Tell them that it is very important to you, and you need their help. Tell them that you understand their concerns, but you really need a positive attitude and support. If they are your close people who care about you, they will become your best allies.
有时候，幸灾乐祸的人就是跟你很亲密的人，你不能忽视他们。如果是这样，最好就是谋取这些人的帮助，而不是同他们斗争。尽快去争取他们。告诉他们这对你很重要，你需要他们的帮助。告诉他们你了解他们的担忧，但是你真的需要积极的态度和支持。如果他们是和你关系亲密、关心你的人，他们会变成你最好的盟友。

6. Laugh with them.
跟他们一起笑。

Sometimes people feel uncomfortable when you take some changes and in order to get rid of this discomfort, they come up with different jokes and begin to taunt you. They just do not know how else to react. Be aware of this and just laugh. If you take their words as nothing more but just a good joke, it disarms them. They can continue making jokes at you, but it won’t longer affect you if you’ll just laugh at them.
当你做出一些改变时，有时人们会感到不安。为了消除这种不安，他们会讲许多笑话开始奚落你。他们只是不知道其他人会是如何反应。要注意这一点，而且只管笑吧。他们会继续拿你开玩笑，但是如果你只是随着他们一起笑的话，这将不再影响你。

7. Have ready-made counter-arguments and use them.
用现成的论点反驳他们。

Sometimes people are just misinformed about what is happening. They may misunderstand what you are doing. Think on all their arguments and prepare your counter-arguments. Conduct your small research and justify the correctness of your actions. Then try to “enlighten” your ill-wishers. If you do it correctly, with a positive and sincere attitude, you can manage to make a person listen to you, and perhaps even change his opinion. If you fail, then at least you will be much better informed about their arguments and won’t let them give birth to doubts in your head.
有时候，人们只不过是被误传了正在发生的事情。他们可能误解了你当前做的事情。思量一下他们的所有论点，准备好反驳的话语。小范围地进行一下研究，证明你的行为是恰当的。然后努力“开导”那些幸灾乐祸的人。如果你的做法恰当，带着积极、诚恳的态度，你就能成功地让人听信你，甚至能改变他的观点。如果你失败了，那么至少你更好地了解了他们的观点，不会让他们使你的大脑再生疑虑。

8. Be sure that you are doing something good.
肯定你做的事情是好事。

Sometimes there is nothing you can do about it. You can’t convince them, you can’t avoid them, you can’t laugh with them… Therefore, you should just ignore them and continue telling yourself that when you reach your goal, it will be a reward for enduring these people.
有时候你对敌人也是束手无策。你不能说服他们，不能躲避他们，不能跟他们一起笑……因此，你应该忽视他们，不断地告诉自己当你实现了自己的目标，这将是对忍耐这些人的回报。

Remember that enemies will always exist in your life. But they are just an additional obstacle on the way towards your goal. If you look for solutions, you can defeat them or make them your allies.
记住，敌人总是存在于你的生活中。但是他们只不过是你实现目标的道路上的额外障碍。如果你去寻找解决方法，你就能打败他们，或者让他们成为你的盟友。