恋爱必修课：10种方法让你忘掉分手的那个他

Trust us on this one. Even though you're not over him, act like you are…and it will eventually manifest. Force yourself to go to parties and flirt with other guys, and one day you'll realize you're not just pretending to have fun or playing along with the dude hitting on you-you're legitimately into it.
相信我们。即使你忘不了他，你的行为要让人看起来你忘掉了他…...最终会成真的。强迫自己参加聚会，勾搭一下其他的男性朋友，有一天你会意识到你不是在假装享受乐趣或和喜欢你的人一起玩——这样做已经名正言顺了。

7. Make Yourself Busy
让自己忙起来

One of the hardest things about breaking up is no longer having a permanent buddy to hang out with every night of the week. To fill the void, make more plans-organize a weekly happy hour with coworkers and brunch dates with your girls. Take on a new hobby, like wine and painting classes or volunteering to walk dogs at an animal shelter.
失恋时最难的事情是每天晚上不再有一个人一直和你待在一起。要想弥补这种空虚感，多做些计划——和同事一起每周享受一次欢乐时光，和女性朋友们一起吃早午餐。找一个新的爱好，比如品酒、参加绘画班或去动物收容所做志愿者帮忙遛狗。

8. …But Also Let Yourself Cry …
但是也要允许自己大哭

Leave enough room in your sched for the occasional night when you stay home and process the loss of your relationship. Give yourself an hour or two to let it all out, because expressing your grief will help you heal. Just be sure to end things on a positive note, like enjoying a bubblebath or chick flick.
在你的日程表上留下足够的时间，这样偶尔一晚上，你可以待在家里处理失恋的感觉。给自己一两个小时发泄一下，因为表达悲伤可以帮你治愈。但是要注意用积极的事情结束，比如享受泡泡浴或看看肥皂剧。

9. De-Clutter Your Life
清理你的生活

Toss his toiletries, send clothes he left at your place back to him, and put any gifts or cards he gave you in a box in your closet (decide later whether you want to keep them; if you purge everything right away, you might regret it). Beyond ditching his stuff, shed clutter in general. Clearing out your place helps clear out your mind and make room for the new.
把他的洗浴用品都扔掉，把他留在你家里的衣服还给他，把他给你的礼物或卡片都放在柜子里的盒子里（以后再决定是否想保留它们；如果你现在就清理，你以后可能会后悔的）。除了清理他的东西外，也清理一下杂物。清理房间能帮助你清空大脑，为新的事物腾出空间。

10. Take Off Your Blinders
不要一叶障目

Many women either demonize or idolize their ex post-split. But if you only focus on what an a-hole he was, you'll get bitter. And if all you can remember is his amazing qualities, no other guy will be able to measure up. So take a relationship inventory: Make list of your ex's good and bad traits so you get a complete picture of him. Then remind yourself that the person you're ultimately supposed to be with is out there, and the longer you stay entrenched in your ex, the longer it'll take you to find him.
很多女性在分手之后要么把前任男友妖魔化要么就偶像化。但是如果你只关注他不好的方面，你会更加痛苦。如果你只能想起他有多么好，那没有人能代替得了他。所以开一张情感清单吧：把前任的优点和缺点都列出来，这样你能全面地了解他。然后提醒自己， 适合你的那个人在等着你。你想前任的时间越长，你就需要更长的时间才能找到另一半。