你真的会经营感情吗？警惕10个坏习惯毁了爱情

No relationship can be spontaneously joyful forever. Once the initial excitement of a new romance wears off, some couples think their relationship is over and give up trying. They risk missing out on experiencing a deeper kind of love.
没有感情可以永远自然地保持快乐。一旦一段新感情最初的激动消退，一些情侣就认为他们的关系已经结束了，而且放弃继续尝试。他们可能会错过经历一段更深层的爱。

7. Focus on the negative.
对于浪漫过于随意。

If you constantly think and talk about your partner's flaws it can amplify your discontent. A paradox of most forms of couples therapy is that you spend your sessions complaining about your partner—something that can actually be detrimental to your relationship.
如果你不停地考虑并谈论你伴侣的缺点，这会放大你的不满。大多数情侣治疗形式的一个悖论在于，你在治疗期间抱怨你的另一半，而这其实会损害你们的感情。

8. Refuse to listen.
拒绝倾听。

Thinking you are the right all the time and engaging in a one-way monologue is a great way to end up in a relationship…of one.
认为自己任何时候都是正确的，而且只顾着自己说话，这是毁掉一段感情的好办法。

9. Hide your needs.
隐藏自己的需求。

If you don't express what you need and want to your partner, you'll constantly feel deprived and frustrated. It's crucial share "the things that truly touch your heart."
如果你从不对伴侣表达你需要什么想要什么，你会一直感觉到不满和沮丧。分享那些“真正触动你内心的东西” 是非常重要的。

10. Expect a fairytale romance.
期待童话般的感情。

Fairy tales are just that and eventually we all have to come down to earth. Demanding the fantasy go on forever prevents your partner from ever being their authentic self and fosters resentment and distance.
童话只是童话，最终我们都要回归现实。希望幻想一直延续会让你的伴侣永远无法做真实的自己，会给你们带来怨恨和距离。