亲爱的别生气：10种方法教你控制愤怒情绪

Don’t worry about feeling the need to defend yourself from their criticisms. If you can remain detached and calm they may begin to feel guilty about venting their anger on you. Inspired by your example of calmness, they will seek subconsciously to do the same.
不要担心自己总是以防卫的姿态面对批评。如果你能保持镇定自若，对方或许会因自己对你发火而感到愧疚。同时受你的镇静情绪感染，他们或许也会不自觉地冷静下来。

7. Focus on Something Completely Different
转移注意力

Suppose someone has done something to make you angry. Think about something which will make you happy. The best antidote to negativity is to focus on the positive.
假如有人做了什么让你生气的事，那就多想想开心的事情。对付消极的灵丹妙药莫过于将注意力转移到积极方面了。

8. Breathe Deeply
深呼吸

The simple act of breathing deeply will help considerably with removing anger.
简单的深呼吸动作能相对减轻愤怒的情绪。

9. Meditation
冥想

Practice meditation regularly to bring your inner peace to the fore. If we can have an inner access to our inner peace we will be able to draw upon this during testing times.
经常冥想有助于保持内心祥和平静。如果我们有办法达到内心平静，何不在愤怒时用一用呢？

10. Smile
微笑

When we smile we defuse many negative situations. To smile is offer goodwill to others. Smiling costs nothing but can effectively defuse tense situations.
微笑能化解许多消极境况。微笑意味着对他人心存善意。微笑无需花费金钱，却能有效缓和紧张的气氛。

Common Sense
小常识

If you leave your unlocked bike in the centre of town, it is likely to get stolen. This can be frustrating and is likely to give rise to feelings of anger. Of course, we should minimise this kind of situation – simply remember to lock your bike. If we feel there is an injustice in our workplace, we should work to resolve it; this will make our work environment more peaceful and less prone to creating anger. If we have a partner who is abusive, the solution is not just dealing with our own anger, but finding a more peaceful living situation.
如果你把自行车停在镇中心却不加锁，车很可能会被偷。而车被偷自然会让你感到沮丧愤怒。所以，要避免这种愤怒情绪，最简单的莫过于先锁好自行车。同样，如果我们在工作中感到不公平，也应该想办法解决问题，这样才能保证工作环境平静舒心、没有怒气搅扰。如果我们的伴侣比较粗暴，那么我们不仅要疏导自己的愤怒情绪，也得想办法寻求更适合的生活。

When we try to transcend anger, it doesn’t mean we have to acquiesce to injustice and unfairness. We should strive to make the world a better place. However, whatever our goals, it is always best to act with poise and a clear mind. Acting under the influence of anger makes it more difficult to attain what we wish to achieve.
当我们尝试克服愤怒情绪时，并不意味着默许不公平不公正现象。我们有责任让世界更美好，但是，不管各自怀着怎样的目标，都应保持头脑清醒、泰然自若。带着怒气行事只会让目标离我们越来越远。