你做好准备了吗？结婚前要问自己的6个问题

We all have emotional, intellectual, physical, practical, social and various other needs from a relationship. If you’re in a relationship and are planning to get married, ask yourself – have you made a rational, clear-headed evaluation of whether and how much of your needs your significant other fulfills?
在一段关系中，我们都有情感的、理智的、生理的、实际的、社会的以及其他各种需求。如果你处在一段恋爱中正计划结婚，问问你自己，你是否已经理性、清醒地评估过，你的另一半是否满足了你的需求，满足了多少？

Or are you glossing over your unfulfilled needs thinking “every relationship requires compromise”?
或者你是否正在掩盖自己尚未满足的需求，心想“每段感情都要学会妥协”？

This is important because when we’re in the throes of that addictive drug called love, we tend to see only positives in the person we’re in love with.
这一点很重要，因为当我们在爱情这种会上瘾的毒药中挣扎时，我们都倾向于只看见我们爱的那个人的优点。

Now nothing can be truer than the fact that every relationship takes some ceding of grounds, and kudos to you if you’re willingly doing your bit. But if you ignore your basic needs, they will find a way to come back to you in the long run – in the form of fights, emotional abuse, cheating and even divorce.
事实上如果你想继续下去，每段感情都需要一些退让，放下一些尊严，这一点再正确不过了。但是如果你忽视了自己基本的需求，它们最终还是会回来找你——形式也许是争斗、精神虐待、欺骗甚至离婚。