实用社交课堂：9个招人嫌的交际习惯你有吗？

“Oh, I look terrible today.” – after someone compliments you. “I just threw it together at the last minute.” – when you obviously dressed up. “I’m really not good at things like this.” – when the people you’re with know you are. Please. Stop. It’s not flattering.
当有人夸你后，你会说“啊，今天我气色并不好。” 明明是盛装打扮，你却又说“唉，随便乱穿罢了。” 就连知根知底的人夸你，你都会说“哪有你说的那样好！”——拜托，这又不是谄媚奉承，何必呢！

6. De-emphasizing compliments with self-effacing remarks.
面对赞赏过于谦逊。

It’s okay to say “thank you” when you’re complimented. By making a self-effacing comment, you nearly force the other person to repeat their compliment, which is not a gracious thing to do. Acknowledging a compliment isn’t snobby – like you’re admitting that you think you’re just grand – it’s a simple courtesy. Besides, you earned it. Saying “thank you” not only makes the other person feel good, it’s a healthy reminder that you’re responsible for some really good things in your life.
受人称赞时说句“谢谢”就行了，非得过于谦逊，反有再次邀赏之嫌，很不好。接受称赞并不表示你很自命不凡，好像自己很了不起的样子，只是是客气而已。更何况有时候确实当之无愧呢！表示感谢不仅让对方感到舒服，也表明你很珍视生活中的美好事物。

7. Cutting people off mid-sentence.
打断别人的讲话。

The only time this is okay is when you’re in an intense brainstorming session. Or you’ve got an urgent situation to attend to. Or you haven’t seen your best friend in months. Okay, so this habit is kind of elastic, but you get the gist. Most of the time, interrupting just means that you’re missing the best parts of the conversation. Plus, you’re showing your chat partner that you value your own thoughts over theirs.
只有在紧张激烈的会议上、遇到非常紧急的情况或激动地与多年不见的好友重逢，打断讲话才情有可原。所以，打断讲话也得看情况分场合。多数时候，打断讲话会错过精彩内容，而且显得你只在意自己的想法。

8. An unsupportive attitude.
不支持的态度。

The greatest compliment you can give to someone is to believe in them and let them know you care. When you see something true, good and beautiful in someone, don’t hesitate to express your appreciation. When you see something that is not true, good and beautiful in someone, don’t neglect to give them your wholehearted blessings and best wishes.
恭维他人最好的办法就是相信他们，让他们知道你很在乎。如果发现别人优秀的方面，请不要吝啬你的赞美；如果发现别人不太好的地方，也要记得多多鼓励、真心祝愿。

9. Trying to please everyone.
想讨好所有人。

This one is about keeping your sanity. No matter how loud their opinions are, others cannot choose who you are. The question should not be, “Why don’t they like me when I’m being me?” it should be, “Why am I wasting all my time and energy worrying what they think of me?” If you are not hurting anyone with your actions, keep moving forward with your life. Be happy. Be yourself. If others don’t like it, let them be. Life isn’t about pleasing everybody.
这就涉及到理智问题了。不管别人对你有什么看法，你还是你自己。不要再责问自己“为什么他们不喜欢真实的我”，而应告诉自己“何必浪费时间和精力担心别人怎么看我呢”。如果你根本就没碍着谁，那就过自己的日子好了。开心点！别人看不惯，随便呗！活着又不是为了讨好每个人。