关于前任不要再说的9件事

Obviously, when you end things with your a-hole, jerky ex, all you wanna do is talk about what a jerky a-hole he is. But before you launch into a tirade about his emotional unavailability, check out these expert tips on the etiquette of what not to say after your relationship is dunzo-at least for your own sake.
当你跟极品前任分手后，显然最想做的莫过于到处谈论他到底是怎样一个极品。但是，在你唾沫四溅地数落他情感无能前，还是先看看下面这些内行建议，注意分手后哪些事不该再提——就当是为你自己好吧。

1. He was broke.
他是个穷屌丝。

Everyone has a different lifestyle and just because he couldn't match yours, that doesn't mean he's a bad guy-or even cheap. Don't sound high maintenance by complaining about his lack of funds.
每个人都有各自生活方式，不要因为他跟你不在同一档次，就狭隘认为他很挫或很穷。不要抱怨人家是屌丝，搞得自己多么“白富美”似的。

2. Everything he thought/did/said was terrible.
他简直一无是处。

Even though you broke up, you shouldn't systematically annihilate of every good thing he did or every good time you had. If someone brings up a great memory of the two of you, take a deep breath and avoid the urge to say, "Yeah, but what about the time he did [insert something horrible here]." And definitely don't badmouth your ex to the max in front of your new man. If your current BF thinks you may still have strong-even strongly negative-feelings for your past guy, he may wonder if you've actually moved on.
就算已经分手，也不要决绝地抹杀掉他的优点，或你俩在一起时的快乐时光。要是有人说起你们俩，可以试着深呼吸，不要冲口就抱怨“哼，可他做的那些挫事……”；而且，千万不要在现任男友面前肆意诋毁前任，要不然现任男友或许会想：到现在还对那家伙咬牙切齿，你是不是根本就没忘记他呢？

3. He was always a jerk.
他就是个混球。

Well, then why did you date him for X number of months or even years? Saying this just makes you look bad, and worse, bitter. Sure, it's always important to look back and see if there were any red flags you missed-so you can be well aware of what to look for next time-but you don't need to broadcast all the warning signs to everyone you know.
既然他是个混球，那你还跟他谈了几个月甚至几年的恋爱？说出这两个字眼只会让别人觉得你更傻更心酸。自然，分手后有必要反省自己是否忽视了某些危险信号，以免下次再犯同样错误，但你完全没必要把你俩之间的问题广而告之。

4. You still love him.
你还爱着他。

We all go through heartache and have experienced a breakup. Telling anyone that you still love him will only prolong the healing. Fake it till you make it. Reframe this to something like, "We had a good run, and I wish him the best." Even if you don't.
谁都遇到过心碎和分手。如果逢人就说你还爱着他，这只会让伤痛更弥久漫长。假装你已经不在乎他了吧！这样慢慢就会真的忘记他。要跟自己说：“我们毕竟有过快乐时光。希望他以后一切都好吧。” 哪怕你根本不想祝他幸福。