关于前任不要再说的9件事

If you're willing to share awful story after awful story about your ex, what does this say to your pals or your current man?
如果你总是无休止地讲述前任的囧闻糗事，那你想让朋友或现任男友忍受到什么时候呢？

6. Anything he told you in absolute confidence.
他的绝对秘密。

In that same vein, don't show you're untrustworthy by spilling major secrets about your ex's family, childhood, what have you. However bitterly things ended, the fact is that you were in an intimate relationship with this person. Often, because he's an "ex" you may rationalize that any oaths made are off the table but keeping promises and living with integrity is just a good way to lead your life.
同理，不要泄露前任家庭、童年或其他方面的秘密，搞得自己很不值得信任。不论分手多么痛苦，也不要忘了：至少曾经你和他非常亲密。有时候因为他已经是“前任”，你会理所当然认为你和他之间的所有承诺都已作废——但是，遵守承诺、正直诚恳才是美好生活的王道。

7. Qualities that you loved about your ex.
他身上那些你喜欢的优点。

Some people have the opposite problem when it comes to exes and find themselves gushing about the awesome things he did, gifts he gave you, how he made you feel special, blah blah blah. For the sake of any new relationship you might be forming, and your own sanity, get your mind-and mouth-out of the past.
相反，有些人一想起前任就会呱啦呱啦说起他做了哪些有趣的事情、送过什么样的礼物，或他如何让自己觉得独一无二等等。顾及到目前的新恋情以及你的理智，还是控制好自己的思绪和嘴巴吧。

8. How much your parents loved him.
你父母如何喜欢他。

When you take a new guy to meet your folks, don't prime him by comparing how your exes fared with your family-especially if your mom and dad loved someone you previously dated. The guy is probably nervous enough trying to live up to your (and their) expectations-he doesn't need the ghost of your ex-bf taunting him, too.
当你带新任男友见你父母时，最好不要预先告诉他你的前任来见家长时如何如何——尤其是不要告诉他你的父母多么喜欢你的前任。为了达到你或你父母的期望，新任男友相比已经够紧张了，又何苦还要遭受你前任阴影的折磨呢？

9. Negative qualities your ex had that your current guy has.
和现任男友相同的缺点。

If you really want to piss your current boyfriend off, mention that something he does that you totally hate reminds you of your ex. This kind of comment never leads to anything positive, trust us.
如果你就是想把现任男友气走，那就跟他说：你让我想起了前任，你俩都有同样的毛病！相信我，这么说的话，你绝对不会看到好脸色的。