怎样才能更有吸引力 掌握这条法则

If you want to be more attractive, make a decision to live in a beautiful state. To say, "I’m not going to give up my happiness over little stuff. I’m not going to be obsessed about things I can’t control. I’m going to focus on what I can control and what I can do."

如果你想要自己变得更有吸引力，那么你得下决心，让自己生活在一个美丽的状态中。也就是说，“我不会因为琐事儿，放弃我自己的幸福，我不会固执于无法掌控的事情，我会专注于我力所能及的事情”

And when people are generous, when they’re playful, when they’re warm, when they’re sincere, when they’re loving, people love to be around them. There’s nothing more attractive. And when somebody is always bitching, they’re a bummer to be around. I mean just pick it out.

当一个人非常慷慨，非常活泼，非常暖心，非常真诚有爱，那么大家都愿意和他待在一块儿，没有比这更吸引人了。但是，如果一个人总是抱怨，那么没人愿意和他待在一起，我是会这么选的。

So what does it take to be more attractive? What it really takes is appreciating your life. Most people, their upsets are because their expectations aren’t met. You expect people to be a certain way. You expect yourself to be a certain way. You expect the government to be a certain way, and it isn’t. So, I always tell people "Trade your expectations for appreciation, and your whole life changes like that."

所以，到底怎么做才会更吸引人呢？其实你需要做的就是，欣赏自己的生活。大部分人感到郁闷是因为他们的期望没有实现。你对他人有特定的期望，你对自己有特定的期望，你对政府有特定的期望，但是都没有实现。所以，我总会告诉别人，把你的期望换成欣赏，那么你的生活瞬间就会不一样。

If you can just start appreciating the people around you, appreciating this moment, appreciating things that you’re not noticing, you’ll live in a beautiful state and other people will find being around you an attractive or an enjoyable experience. It’s that simple.

如果你能试着欣赏你周边的人，欣赏生活中的每一刻，欣赏那些你没注意到的事情，你就会拥有一个美丽的状态，大家也会觉得，待在你身边，更有吸引力，更为享受，就是这么简单。