如何表达自己的真切感受

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Lots of people suffer from an inability to express their true feelings, which can affect relationships and self-confidence. Here are simple ways to overcome this problem.

You Will Need

Friend or loved one
Honesty
Notebook (optional)

Step 1: Organize your thoughts（将自己的思想组织好）
Take time to organize your thoughts before telling them to someone else. You need to understand what you’re feeling before you express it.

Write down your thoughts in a notebook; it will help you sort out what is important.

Step 2: Don't wait until you're fed up（不要闷在肚子里，让自己难受）
Talk out your feelings before you become too fed up with the issue. Excess anger will make it difficult to explain yourself.

Step 3: Be specific（简单扼要）
Be specific. Refer to specific issues or events that have bothered you, and when and where they took place. A general statement won’t be productive.

Step 4: Describe the feeling（抒发自己的感想）
Describe what you felt when the event occurred.

Don’t simply say that you’re “angry” or “upset,” but use as much detail as you can. This will help the other person better understand the issue.

Step 5: Avoid blaming the other person（不要指责其他人）
Avoid blaming the other person. You don’t want them to become defensive. Talk about your reaction rather than about their mistake.

Morris Albert’s 1975 song “Feelings” made it to no. 6 on Billboard’s Top 100.