学会原来与宽容别人

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Holding a grudge holds you back. Without forgiveness, you can’t get on with your life. Learn how to forgive and forget and you’ll be a healthier, happier person.

You Will Need

Acceptance
Understanding
Focus
Stress management
Commitment

Step 1: Accept（正确面对这个事实）
Accept the facts of your situation.

Be objective without pointing a finger or making yourself a victim.

Step 2: Understand（学会理解对方）
Understand the reasons why the person hurt you. People are rarely malicious without reason. Most conflicts arise from misunderstanding.

Step 3: Look back（客观地分析，每个人都会犯错，包括你自己）
Look back on a time when someone forgave you and remember how that made you feel. Understand that we all make mistakes.

Step 4: Focus on positives（积极面对生活）
Focus on all that is positive in your life.

Step 5: Manage stress（有效地抗压）
Manage your stress to help suppress anger and resentment.

Step 6: Commit to forgiving（从心底原谅让你难过的那个人）
Commit yourself to forgiving the person that caused you pain.

Step 7: Accept apology（接受道歉）
Let them know that you accept their apology and be genuine in your forgiveness.

A decrease in heart rate, blood pressure, sweat levels, and facial tension occurred in people who imagined receiving an apology after feeling wronged.