怎样与别人成为好友?

You like to think of yourself as a good friend, but are you really? If you’re not sure, it’s time to think about what makes a true pal.
你认为自己是别人的好友，你真的是吗？如果你不确定，是时候想想什么能使你成为他人的知心好友。

Step 1: Be willing to listen
Always be willing to listen to what the other person is telling you, even if sometimes it’s boring or makes you uncomfortable.
第一步：愿意倾听
总是愿意倾听别人告诉你的事，即使有时候内容很乏味或是令你很不舒服。

Step 2: Don’t be judgmental
Don’t be judgmental. Try to see your friend’s point of view. If you’re going to disagree, do it respectfully.
第二步：不要过于倾向自己的判断。
不要过于倾向自己的判断。试着去理解朋友的观点。如果你不同意他的观点，一定要委婉些。

Tip:Don’t give advice without being asked, or first asking if your friend would like your counsel. Sometimes people just want to vent.
建议：如果朋友没有让你提意见不要发表意见，或是先问问你的鹏哟是否想听听意见。有时候人们只是想发泄。

Step 3: Speak up
That said, if your friend is doing something that is hurting her or someone else, you must speak up. Forcefully.
第三步：毫无顾虑地说出
也就是说，如果你的朋友做了伤害别人的事，你一定要毫无顾虑地指出来。要有说服力。

Step 4: Don’t interrupt
Don’t interrupt your friend. Cutting someone off shows that you are more interested in what you want to say than what they are telling you.
第四步：不要打断朋友的话。
不要打断别人的话。插话会表明你相对于别人说的话，你更对自己所说的感兴趣。

Step 5: Be there when they need help
Be there when they need help. Nothing ends a friendship faster than abandoning a friend in her time of need.
第五步：当朋友需要帮助时要帮忙
当朋友需要帮助时要帮忙。如果朋友需要帮忙时，你却不理睬，友谊很很快结束。

Step 6: Be thoughtful
Be thoughtful. If you’re shopping and see a small item a buddy would like, buy it. Send cards just to let your friends know you value them.
第六步：要体贴
要体贴。如果你在购物，看到一个好朋友喜欢的小饰品，买下来。给朋友发祝福卡片让他们知道你珍视友谊。

Step 7: Don’t take your friends for granted
Don’t take your friends for granted. If you hear yourself thinking, “She’s my friend; she won’t mind,” stop and reconsider. It is precisely because she’s your friend that you shouldn’t take advantage of her.
第七步：不要把你的朋友想当然
不要把你的朋友想当然。如果你察觉自己正在想“她是我的朋友，她不会介意”。停下来再重新思考。正因为她是你的朋友，你才不应该利用她。