怎样帮别人建立自信

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Shameless flattery isn’t the only way to boost someone’s self-image.

You Will Need
Time to spend with the person
Patience to encourage life changes
And the wisdom to compliment wisely
A dog

Step 1: Encourage exercise（鼓励对方锻炼身体）
Lure the person off the couch. Studies show that exercise raises confidence, so you’ll both get a self-esteem boost.

Strength training, in particular, has been shown to make people feel better about themselves.

Step 2: Get him a pet（送对方一只宠物）
Get him a puppy—particularly if the person who needs to feel better about himself is a child or a senior citizen. Research shows that both groups benefit greatly from dogs’ legendary unconditional love.

Step 3: Encourage him to volunteer（鼓励对方多参加自愿活动）
Encourage the person to become a volunteer. They’ll feel good for helping, and it’ll remind them of how fortunate they are.

Step 4: Encourage writing（鼓励对方练字）
Urge the person to pen a poem. Writing verse has been shown to raise self-esteem by producing endorphins, the so-called “feel good” chemicals produced by the brain.

Step 5: Compliment him（赞美对方）
Use praise wisely. Research shows it’s better to compliment a person for working hard than being smart, because the latter will cause a major drop in confidence every time the person fails at a task.

Adolescent girls with low self-esteem are more likely to diet and less likely to exercise than confident girls, according to The Commonwealth Fund Survey of the Health of Adolescent Girls.