Where You Want To Be

Barry was on the phone in his office, speaking with confidence,energy and passion.

In his office were a number of removal men working quickly movingfurniture out the door to the van parked outside. Before long theoffice was bare except for some old files, a cracked pictureframe and a parched plant.

Just then a tall man in a dark suit entered the building with aswagger. He found Barry still on the phone, standing in a cornerof the empty office. His voice echoed around the empty room ashe finished his conversation and hung up and placed the phoneback on the floor.

Barry reached into his pocket to find his keyring, he selectedthe car key and reluctantly handed it over. The man in the suitgrabed it before walking outside and driving off at high speed inthe car.

John walked in to see Barry just as all of this was happening. Hewas surprised at how relaxed and confident Barry was given thecircumstances. You see, Barry had just lost his Business and theremoval men had arrived to repossess his furniture while the carleasing company had taken back the Rolls Royce because thepayments had fallen into arrears.

John was here for the same reason - to collect an unpaid debt.Although it was clear now that there was little chance of gettingany money. So John and Barry did a deal. If Barry would teach himhow he could be so cool in the face of pressure than the debtwould be regarded as paid.

This is what Barry said to him:

**The big secret in life is to train your mind to think onlyabout what you want to happen and to keep your thoughts off ofwhat you do not want. Despite the fact that I have just lost myBusiness, my car, and my office I just got off the phone, beforeit gets disconnected, after negotiating what could be one of mybiggest deals ever.

Always keep your mind picturing what you really want and THINKABOUT WHERE YOU WANT TO BE and not where you are. Stress is whathappens when you put your attention on the wrong things.**

And now over to you. Most people live life in a trance withoutnoticing the thoughts that are flying around inside their headsall day long. Spend more time each day spotting what you thinkabout, you will likely find that you often run through all thethings that could go wrong as well as seeing situations workingout as being only o.k.

Next, review a recent event where the pressure was on and youfroze. How did you manage to put yourself in such anunresourceful state. What thoughts were going through your mind.

More than likely you created big pictures in your mind of thingsgoing wrong.

Get into the habit of expecting things to work out and you willfind yourself picturing life running more smoothly. You will thenfeel more confident, people will respond to you differently andyou will get better results. Before long you will see that it isa self fulfilling prophecy.

Peter Murphy
Peter1510@hotmail.com
Publisher of the Abolish Shyness newsletter