分手不是世界末日：分手后绝不要做的8件事

Yes, dogs can get away with begging. But you can't. Maybe you don’t understand why it ended. Maybe you think it ended for the wrong reasons. Maybe you’d just rather be in a bad relationship than be in no relationship at all. Instead of clinging to lost hope, find a wise friend who can help you walk through the reasons why you’re having a hard time letting go.
是的 ，狗狗们的乞求也许管用，但是你不能这样做。也许你还不明白你们为什么会分手；也许你认为你们分开的理由是错误的；也许你宁愿维持这段糟糕的关系也不愿意单身一人。与其纠缠于这些无谓的念想，不如找一个有智慧的朋友，他/她会帮你认识到为什么要放手，让那些艰难的时刻过去。

Don’t beg for him/her to return. Deep down, you know that you don’t want to be in a relationship with someone you had to beg to be with you. Besides, if your ex rejects you a second time, it won’t just hurt; the rejection will sting with extra humiliation and regret.
别乞求他/她回心转意。事实上你清楚，自己并不想和一个乞求得来的人在一起。此外，如果你的前任再次拒绝了你，那就不止是伤心了：他/她的拒绝会带着屈辱和懊悔一起刺痛你。

6. Facebook-stalk your ex.
在社交网络上监视前任

Social media can be dangerous when dealing with heartache. Give yourself two rules: Don’t post anything about the breakup drama online, no matter how vague, and resist the urge to stalk your ex. “Defriending” or at least hiding statuses can help you avoid the constant temptation to check in and see if your ex is living a life more miserable — or worse, more awesome — than yours.
说到分手后的心痛，社交媒体就变得危险起来。告诉你两条规矩：别在网上发布任何和分手有关的内容，哪怕措辞再模糊也不行；还有就是一定要克制住监视前任的冲动。对前任“取消关注”或者至少保持隐身，可以帮助你抵制住查看他/她状态的诱惑。不要去关心你的前任是过得比你更伤心、更糟糕还是更好。

7. Get a haircut — or tattoo.
剪发或纹身

Make no drastic changes for a while. It’s easy to make rash decisions post-breakups. One major change in your life can inspire even more change. If you have a tattoo-design epiphany in the days following heartache, wait a few months before acting on it. Wait until you’re emotionally back on your feet.
暂时不要做出重大改变。分手后很容易做出草率的决定。生活中一个大的改变可以激发更多的改变。如果你在伤心的时候想去弄个纹身，等几个月再说吧。至少等你的情绪平复一些。

Hair grows back, but be warned: a bad bowl cut can hurt your already-bruised confidence. Don’t kick yourself when you’re down.
头发还可以再长，但要小心：一个糟糕的发型可以打击你本来就受伤的自信。别在难过的时候再来糟蹋自己了。

8. Give up.
灰心丧气

She wasn’t the one. He made you feel like nothing. Don’t let a breakup destroy hope. Continue taking care of yourself. Take some time to refocus and pursue the things you’ve always loved to do. Spend time with loved ones. Love isn’t a one-shot-only experience.
她不是对的那个人。他让你感觉一无所有。别让分手摧毁你的希望。继续关爱自己，花些时间，去重新关注和追求那些你一直喜爱的事情。和你爱的人们在一起。爱情的体验绝不仅仅是一次。

Learn what you can from the relationship that just ended and move forward. Don’t give up on meeting your perfect match. Be thankful that the wrong relationship ended to free you up for the right one.
从刚刚结束的这段关系里总结经验，然后继续前行。别放弃寻找完美的另一半。要感谢这段错误关系的终结给你自由，让你去寻找那个对的人。