拍马屁的艺术：揭秘7招最有效的拍马屁技巧

5.Complimenting the boss to the boss’s friend. As one manager put it, “. . . complimenting someone to his face is kind of obvious brown-nosing, or at least suspect. If you regularly say nice things about him to his friend though, he [the influence target] will almost always find out about it eventually, and it will mean a lot more when he does.”
5.在老板的朋友面前夸他。一位经理这么说，“在本人面前拍马屁显然是非常谄媚的，至少是可疑的。但是如果你总在老板的朋友面前说一些关于他的好话，他（你想恭维的目标）迟早会发现的，而且那对他来说也会比当面拍马屁要更加有意义。”

6.Show the boss you have the same values. …As one manager suggested, “I’ve found that a good way to begin a discussion is to make some reference to something that’s important to me personally and that I have reason to believe is important to the other person—sometimes it’s my religious conviction, sometimes it’s my commitment to environmental protection, sometimes it’s my family . . . [when asked why:] they’re more likely to trust whatever I say afterward.”
6.向老板的价值观看齐。一位经理说，“我发现开启讨论的一个好办法是：从我觉得重要的观点入手，我觉得重要的东西对其他人来说应该也是很重要的。这些重要的东西可以是宗教信仰，或者对环境保护的认同，或者是我的家人……如果对方向我询问理由了，那么我之后说的话就更容易被相信了。”

7.Mention a group membership that the two of you have in common.  …As one manager put it, “If I’m trying to influence someone I might start the conversation by mentioning a group or organization that I know we both belong to . . . [when asked what sort of group:] might be a political party, a religious organization . . . [when asked why:] I think it helps build trust so you can be more convincing.”
7.提起一个和你有共同点的团队成员。一位经理说，“假如我试图影响某人，我会通过提起一个我们都从属于的组织或圈子来开启对话。（如果问我有那些圈子的话）那或许是一个政治党派，一个宗教组织”……（如果问我为什么的话）我认为那有助于建立信任，那样我就可以更有说服力。”