情侣之间沟通常出现的7个问题

5. Not understanding what is really being said.

不明白对方真正表达的意思

Some couples find it helpful to summarize each others’ points. Sounds like something you’d do for a high school paper, right? It’s actually a really good way to make sure you understand each other! After your partner shares their thoughts, summarize by saying “It sounds like you’re happy with X, but need Y to change to feel like the relationship is moving forward.” Your partner can then clarify if needed. If you got it right, then you can start explaining your thoughts on the issue.

有情侣发现总结对方的观点能起到作用。听起来像是在做高中作业，对吧？但这真的是明白对方的好方法！每当对方分享了他们的想法时，你可以这样总结“听起来你对X很满意，而Y就需要为增进感情改变一下了。”如果需要的话，你的爱人就会具体说明了。要是你分析对了，那么你也可以就此继续表达你的想法。