当爱成往事：分手时10句最烂的台词

Nobody who was ever genuinely interested in someone, and in carrying out a relationship with that person, lost interest because he or she had too many meetings that week. “I’m too busy” is an often aggravating, self-important way of expressing something that isn’t wrong or illegitimate to feel — if you’d rather not spend any of your free time with someone, that’s OK and good to know. But that’s about the person, not about the other obligations. Also: Literally everyone thinks they’re really busy right now.
没有一个真正喜欢别人并且发展着一段恋情的人，会因为这周有太多会议而失去对ta的兴趣。“我太忙了”就是用这种恼人且自尊自大的方式来表达事情没出问题，感觉没有变化——如果你空闲时间都不愿意和某人相处，没问题，知道也无妨。这毕竟跟人有关，而非某个规定制度。所以，每个人都会觉得自己现在很忙啊。

7. “I’m just bad at this stuff.”
“我真的不擅长处理感情问题。”

This is one of many self-pitying breakup cliches that sound like admissions of personal failure, but aren’t — a close cousin of “I’m so fucked up right now,” “I’m just bad at this stuff” romanticizes flaws like inability to communicate, manage one’s time, and treat other people with respect.
分手的时候这算是最常听见的陈词滥调之一，好像是对自己人生失败的一种总结，实际不是——这句话的姊妹篇就是“我现在真的心力交瘁”，“我不擅长处理感情问题” 把那些不善交际、无法合理安排时间、不懂尊重别人等等缺点给美化了。

It’s one thing to realize you’ve got some things you want to work on, alone, but it’s another to use that recognition as a free pass to flail around helplessly. Being “bad at stuff” isn’t just about the person who says it — it also affects the person who has to deal with it.
意识到自己有想做的事情是一回事，同时，把这句话当成是可以不负责任的说辞是另外一回事。“不擅长处理感情” 已经跟说这话的人无关了——也会影响那个跟你在一起的人啊。

 8. “I still care about you.”
“我还是关心你的。”

This one very much DEPENDS, of course, but saying TOO many nice or seemingly romantic things during a breakup can be confusing. Compliments don’t soften the blow, they twist the knife. If you extoll the other person’s virtues for too long, in too much depth, they’re bound to wonder why, then, you don’t want to be together.
这句话要分情况，当然，在分手的时候说太多好听或者浪漫的话会让人误会。赞美也无法缓解分离，他们只是把刀弄的没有那么锋利罢了。如果你不懂赞美别人的美德，深深的赞美，他们就会去怀疑为什么，怀疑也许你是想分手了吧。

It’s obviously OK to hope you can make peace with an ex, but don’t throw out the “I still care about you” line just because you think it’ll make a breakup easier to swallow.
当然你跟前任做朋友也完全没问题，但不要丢下诸如 “我还是关心你的” 这样的话，哪怕你觉得这话说出来能减轻分手的痛苦。

9. “I just wish we’d met a few years from now.”
“我多希望我们早点遇见。”

And we wish teleportation were real, and that it was eating brownies and not celery that burned more calories than those ingested, and that Lance Bass had been allowed to go to space. But what would the world be like if any of those things were true? We will never know!!! Just like we don’t know what it means to wish “we’d met a few years from now.” Why are you so convinced you’ll have your shit together by then? That seems overly optimistic.
我们也希望能瞬间移动，吃布朗宁的时候会消耗而非吸收更多的卡路里，兰斯·贝斯被允许进入太空。如果我们希望的都能实现，这个世界会变成什么模样？我们永远也不会知道！就好像我们永远不会知道“多希望我们早几年遇见” 意味着什么一样。你凭什么这么相信那时候我们也能在一起？这也太过于乐观了吧。

小编注：Lance Bass 美国男子团体“超级男孩” 成员，公开出柜。曾因接受宇航员训练而成为新闻头条，但最终没能获得足够赞助飞往太空。

 10. “[Nothing]” / Ghosting
“一言不发”/消失

Ghosting, or completely disappearing on someone you’ve been dating for any length of time over a week, is completely gross and totally indefensible. It’s thoughtless, lazy, and cruel, and don’t let your self-excusing lizard brain tell you otherwise.
另一半玩消失或是彻底失踪一周以上真的让人觉得恼火且无法招架。这完全欠考虑、偷懒和残忍，也不让你能理智的分析思考。

You know what is the easiest thing to do in the entire world? Texting someone. It has literally never been easier to break up with someone in five seconds. If you can’t bring your sad self to do ANYTHING else, say SOMETHING. ANYTHING. Anything on this list is better than nothing.
你知道这个世界最简单的事情是什么吗？那就是给别人发短信。可以在五秒钟之内简单跟别人说分手。如果你不能给自己找到任何理由，那就说些什么，任何东西。上面九句话中的任何一句也好过你一声不吭玩失踪。