揭秘职业教练：10项鲜为人知的引导技能

Tim saw two forces working in him. One was catabolic -- negative, destructive and self-defeating.

The other was anabolic -- positive, constructive, empowering.
蒂姆看到了自己内在的两股力量。一股是阻碍的——负面的，破坏性的，自我挫败的；另一股是促进的——正面的，建设性的，赋予力量的。

This is Tim's true self, who he is at his best -- confident, innovative, happy, hardworking and successful.
蒂姆最好的状态，才是真正的自己——自信、创新、快乐、刻苦且成功。

When you make conscious choices to be positive, you shift out of the low, negative energy of being a "poor me" victim -- to higher, more powerful levels of energy such as responsibility, concern, creativity and acceptance.
当你有意识地积极起来时，你就走出了“可怜的我“的负能量区——到达了有力的高能量区，那儿有负责、关心、创新和接纳等优秀品质 。

7. Keep challenging yourself

不断挑战自己

Tim had spent seven days soul searching this question: What do you want to do? He had his answer. Tim wanted to run his own business -- creating training videos for professional massage therapists.
蒂姆曾花了七天时间来深究自己的灵魂：你想要做什么？他找到了答案。他想要自己做生意——为职业按摩师做培训录像。

It was thrilling to hear his confidence, high energy, creative plans, commitment and joy. All of his past experience with photography, massage therapy, sales and business acumen fit in perfectly.
听到他言语中的自信、正能量、创新计划、承诺和欣喜，我非常激动。所有他过去的经历，摄影、按摩疗法、销售和商业敏锐性，都完美地结合在他新的规划中。

Coaching challenged Tim to find an answer and, it was the complete opposite of failure mode.
职业教练让蒂姆挑战自我找到了答案。这是失败完完全全的反面。

8. Coaches don't give advice
职业教练不给忠告

We don't tell people what to do. We help people take action. Tim did just that, drafting a two page, detailed business plan: Executive Summary; Business Description; The Market and Competition; Products and Services; Management and Personnel; Investment.
我们不告诉人们去做什么。我们帮助他们采取行动。蒂姆正是这样做的，他草拟了一份两页纸的详细商业计划：执行纲要、商业描述、市场竞争、产品和服务、管理和人员配置、投资。

Michael: "If you're 100-percent clear on your purpose in opening this business, what does it do for you?"
麦克：“如果你百分百确定自己做这个生意的目标，那么它能为你做什么？”

Tim: "I have focus, energy, direction. Purpose makes me strong and happy."
蒂姆：“我很专注，有精力，有方向。目标让我强大，让我幸福。”

9. Dreams are real plans for success
梦想是真正的成功计划

By our fourth and final coaching session, Tim had done a tremendous amount of work. He named his company, produced his first product and made money.
到我们的第四次和最后培训阶段时，蒂姆已经做了大量工作。他给公司起了名，做出了第一代产品，收获了利润。

Tim: "Well, it's not a lot of money."
蒂姆：“赚的钱并不多。”

Michael: "Sure there's more to do, but why not celebrate your success instead of complaining?"
麦克：“当然有更多事情要做。不过，与其抱怨，为什么不去庆祝你的成功呢？”

He told me, "I'm good! I'm not quitting. I have vision and I'm optimistic."
他告诉我，“我很棒！我不要放弃。我有梦想，也很乐观。”

10. Stretch yourself. Do more than you thought you could do
尽最大努力，超出自己想象的极限

Coaching is valuable, life increasing process. It promotes vision and purpose, builds happiness and success, enabling you to meet your dreams and potential.
职业引导是极具价值且让生命更充实的过程。它提升梦想和目标，建立幸福和成功，让你接近梦想和潜力。

I stretched myself all over the place in coaching school. Learning new things that met and strengthened my core values -- how to be properly detached and vitally present, breaking through blocks and limiting beliefs, listening and not judging and trusting my intuition.
在培训学校的时候，我在很多方面都尽了自己最大的努力。学到了匹配和强化我核心价值观的新东西——怎样合适地超然事外而又充满存在感，冲破阻碍和限制性的想法，倾听但不主观判断，同时相信自己的直觉。

In a profound and completely surprising way, I discovered who I truly am -- a person who is passionate for helping people live magnificent lives and careers. Not mediocre. Not a bit above average. Not just better or okay. But an extraordinary life, full of rich diversity, honest feeling and clear purpose.
以一种深刻却又完全出乎意料的方式，我找到了真实的自己——一个对帮助他人实现宏伟生活和事业蓝图充满激情的人。不要平庸，超过平均标准不止一点点，不只是好些或者还行。我要非凡的人生，充满丰富的多样性，诚实的感觉和清晰的目标。