男人来自火星,女人来自金星 (七)

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WE ON MARS
Martians value power, competency, efficiency, and achievement. Their sense of self is defined through their ability to achieve results.They experience fulfillment primarily through success and accomplishments.

火星人的生活
火星人重视力量、能力、效率和成就，他们以实际行动证明他们的能力和培养力量与技能。他们由完成结果的能力来诠释自己的存在意义。他们主要是以成功和成就来经验圆满。

Achieving goals is very important to a Martian because it is a way for him to prove his competence and thus feel good about himself. And for him to feel good about himself he must achieve these goals alone by himself. Autonomy is a symbol of efficiency, power, and competence.

完成目标对火星人而言很重要，因为那是证明他能力与自我满足的方法。为了满足自我，他必须自己完成目标，其他人不可替他完成。火星人以自力做事为捎。自主是效率、力量和能力的象征。

Understanding this Martian characteristic can help women understand why men resist so much being corrected or being told what to do. To offer a man unsolicited advice is to presume that he doesn't know what to do or that he can't do it on his own. Men are very touchy about this, because the issue of competence is so very important to them.

了解火星人的这些特征，可以帮助女人明白力何男人这么反抗被纠正或听取人家要他做什么。提供给男人他不主动请求的建议，等于断定他无法自己做事或他不知道自己该做什么，男人必会因此动怒，因为能力问题对他们而言，非常重要。

Because he is handling his problems on his own, a Martian rarely talks about his problems unless he needs expert advice. Asking for help when you can do it yourself is perceived as a sign of weakness.

火星人惯于自己排解问题，除非他需要专家的建议，否则他不会谈论他的问题。

However, if he truly does need help, then it is a sign of wisdom to get it. In this case, he will find someone he respects and then talk about his problem. Talking about a problem on Mars is an invitation for advice. Another Martian feels honored by the opportunity. Automatically he puts on his Mr. FIX It hat, listens for a few bits, and offers some jewels of advice.

但是，如果他真的需要帮忙，他就会寻找他尊敬的人来讨论他的问题。火星人与人谈论问题就是邀请对方给予建议。对方（同为火星人）也会因有此机会而觉得荣耀，他会自动戴上"修理先生"的帽子，倾听一会儿之后，再提供如宝石般剔透珍贵的建议。