男闺蜜当道：为什么你们只是朋友？

5. You're Afraid Of Dating
你在害怕约会

I think that you've come to rationalize avoiding something that's difficult for you. You have to learn to date. I know it's awkward and scary, but what you're doing [if you try to be friends first] is trying to find some shortcut or loophole or easy way out that will allow you to avoid doing something that I think you know you need to do. This same psychology is why overweight people keep buying miracle pills instead of getting on the treadmill.
只做朋友不恋爱，我觉得你只是在合理地避免一些困难的事情，你必须学会如何约会。我知道约会很尴尬很吓人，但如果你想先做朋友，那你只是在走捷径找漏洞，用轻松简单的相处方式让你可以免于约会里的种种麻烦。这跟超重的人拼命买特效药而不愿意运动减肥的心理是一样的。